How can Metamorphosis help?

Happiness and fulfillment
Fertility
Parenting
Terrible Two
Bullying
Teenagers
Autism
ADHD/ ADD  
ADHD/ ADD

Being in a ‘good place’ inside allows us to create all of our responses from within ourselves rather than in reaction to external influences. Every response that we create, whether physical, emotional or behavioural is created by a thought. Nothing happens unless we think it first, therefore it is our attitude of mind which creates our physical reality.
A simple example of this is a teenager who has had a growth spurt and finds themselves 10 centimetres taller than their peers. If this teenager is prone to respond to external influences then they may round their shoulders in order to be perceived as being more like their peers. This inability to ‘be themselves’ creates a physical stoop. This is a very obvious visual example but we all do this to a greater or lesser extent everyday.
For someone with obsessive compulsive disorder the constant forceful turning off of a tap will eventually result in the tap dripping as the washer is worn out. The object of the anxiety is created by the obsessive need to ensure it doesn’t happen.

There is no doubt that we are conditioned by events from the past. These conditions act as holds in time and block us from living in the present moment.
Even through mediation or positive thinking only a superficial level of consciousness is temporarily reconditioned to be present in this moment.
Until recently there has been a general assumption that the factors which create these attitudes of mind come from environmental influences such as our life experiences, the programming of our belief system in childhood or our pre natal experiences in the womb.
Robert St John, in the course of developing the philosophy of Metamorphosis, realised that by far the greatest influences of our attitude of mind come from thought patterns from the past which are introduced at conception. These are not so much individual thoughts of our parents at the time of conception but an accumulation of patterns of thought through the history of time in much the same way as our DNA is influenced the first amoebic cells that inhabited our planet.

By expanding our thinking our perception of our day to day lives widens. Activities that are routinely carried are reviewed unconsciously and the motivation to engage with them is challenged. They are then either accepted and carried on, but with an inner motive rather than an external one or if acceptance cannot be achieved, then a creative alternative is found which honours everyone involved. This process can address all aspects of our lives from our role within our family, our attitude to money or even our inclination to conform with society in general. If this process was addressed at a conscious level without the expansion of our thinking then the result would be limited. By expanding our thinking and creating a space for new ideas to evolve then an entirely new attitude of mind is possible. Because the new attitude is more in tune with your inner guidance it will better honour those it affects.  Attitudes which are out of tune with our inner guidance tend to create disharmony.

Happiness and fulfillment                                               back to top
Those who have experience in marketing or people management may be familiar with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. In it, Maslow identifies 5 basic levels of human needs which are required to be fulfilled on a hierarchical basis. Fulfilment of a higher need will not be sought until the lower levels have been satisfied.

1. More efficient perception of reality and more comfortable relations with it. This characteristic includes the detection of the phoney and dishonest person and the accurate perception of what exists rather than a distortion of perception by one's needs. Self-actualizing people are more aware of their environment, both human and nonhuman. They are not afraid of the unknown and can tolerate the doubt, uncertainty, and tentativeness accompanying the perception of the new and unfamiliar, greater openness to experience. They have a superior ability to see the truth and are  intuitive and efficient in action based of this broader perception.
This characteristic is important for those suffering from fears, phobias, depression, suicidal tendencies or other mental illness. Behavioral issues such as autism, add, adhd improve as perception expands.
2. Acceptance of self, others, and nature. Self-actualizing persons are not ashamed or guilty about their human nature, with its shortcoming, imperfections, frailties, and weaknesses. Nor are they critical of these aspects of other people. They respect and esteem themselves and others. Moreover, they are honest, open, genuine, without pose or facade. They are not, however, self-satisfied but are concerned about discrepancies between what is and what might be or should be in themselves, others, and society. They lack of crippling guilt or shame and have no unnecessary inhibitions.

A self actualised person is described by the characteristics detailed below. Metamorphosis enables the breakdown of conditioning patterns to achieve this level of balance at any age and despite any condition.

1. More efficient perception of reality and more comfortable relations with it. This characteristic includes the detection of the phoney and dishonest person and the accurate perception of what exists rather than a distortion of perception by one's needs. Self-actualizing people are more aware of their environment, both human and nonhuman. They are not afraid of the unknown and can tolerate the doubt, uncertainty, and tentativeness accompanying the perception of the new and unfamiliar, greater openness to experience. They have a superior ability to see the truth and are intuitive and efficient in action based of this broader perception.
This characteristic is important for those suffering from fears, phobias, depression, suicidal tendencies or other mental illness. Behavioral issues such as autism, add, adhd improve as perception expands.

2. Acceptance of self, others, and nature. Self-actualizing persons are not ashamed or guilty about their human nature, with its shortcoming, imperfections, frailties, and weaknesses. Nor are they critical of these aspects of other people. They respect and esteem themselves and others. Moreover, they are honest, open, genuine, without pose or facade. They are not, however, self-satisfied but are concerned about discrepancies between what is and what might be or should be in themselves, others, and society. They lack of crippling guilt or shame and have no unnecessary inhibitions.
Being free from the internalisation of stress will reduce of the creation of disease and disorder. Natural sexuality is a consequence of being free of guilt and shame.

3. Spontaneity. Self-actualizing persons are not hampered by convention, but they do not flout it. They are not conformists, but neither are they anti-conformist for the sake of being so. They are not externally motivated or even goal-directed- rather their motivation is the internal one of growth and development, the actualization of themselves and their own potential. Growth, development and maturation, change and fluidity. Simplicity and naturalness.

Children who develop with this trait become free from peer pressure. They are not inclined towards herd behaviour and so are easier to manage through their teenage years and can be trusted to mature without requiring strict parental boundaries.

4. Problem-centering. Self-actualizing persons are not ego-centered but focus on problems outside themselves. They are mission-oriented, often on the basis of a sense of responsibility rather than personal choice. This characteristic would appear to be related to security and lack of defensiveness leading to compassionateness.
Those who are not guided by ego do not attract bullies and do not become bullies. They are not inclined to undermine others, do not seek to put down others in order to ‘put up’ themselves. They are serene and lack worry.

5. The quality of detachment; the need for privacy. The self-actualizing person enjoys solitude and privacy. It is possible for him to remain unruffled and undisturbed by what upsets others. It is perhaps related to a sense of security and self-sufficiency. The Self-actualized person can be alone and not be lonely, is unflappable, and retains dignity amid confusion and personal misfortunes, all the while remaining objective. He is a self starter, is responsible for himself, and owns his behaviour.
This type of person stays in the moment, does not constantly revisit the past or project into the future. They lack compulsive and impulsive behaviours. They are not fazed by minor challenges such as traffic congestion, bad weather, delays, noise etc.

6. Autonomy, independence of culture and environment. Self-actualizing persons, though dependent on others for the satisfaction of the basic needs of love, safety, respect and belongingness, "are not dependent for their main satisfactions on the real world, or other people or culture or means-to-ends, or in general, on extrinsic satisfactions. Rather they are dependent for their own development and continued growth upon their own potentialities and latent resources." The SA person has a fresh rather than stereotyped appreciation of people and the basic good in life. Moment to moment living for him is thrilling, transcending, and spiritual as he lives the present moment to the fullest.
Someone with this level of balance is not overly identified with roles, is not limited by or locked into position or status. They can parent effectively, and let go gradually at appropriate stages in their children’s development. Additionally they are not obsessively attached to their role as a victim, patient, bereaved etc. They can see a negative event or condition for what it is and not as a definition of who they are.

7. Continued freshness of appreciation. Self-actualizing persons repeatedly, though not continuously, experience awe, pleasure, and wonder in their everyday world. "Feelings of limitless horizons opening up to the vision, the feeling of being simultaneously more powerful and also more helpless than one ever was before.
Life is not viewed as routine or dull. They are never bored or feeling there is no point. Living in the moment and exuding a joy for life are obvious characteristics of this perception.

8. The mystic experience, the oceanic feeling. In varying degrees and with varying frequencies, self-actualizing persons have experiences of ecstasy, awe, and wonder with feelings of limitless horizons opening up, followed by the conviction that the experience was important and had a carry-over into everyday life. the feeling of ecstasy and wonder and awe, the loss of placement in time and space with, finally, the conviction that something extremely important and valuable had happened, so that the subject was to some extent transformed and strengthened even in his daily life by such experiences
Inspired, positive, ease of movement through life, doesn’t feel limited, not inclined to blame or feel dissatisfied.

This is a spiritual aspect of self actualisation, having feelings of connectedness rather than isolation. This is an important part of appreciating that your role in life has nothing to do with your job. We are all here for a purpose which transcends our individual selves. It is vital for those suffering from addictions to connect with this perception so that they can feel worthy of moving forward in life with purpose.

9. Self-actualizing persons have a deep feeling of empathy, sympathy, or compassion for human beings in general. This feeling is, in a sense, unconditional in that it exists along with the recognition of the existence in others of negative qualities that provoke occasional anger, impatience, and disgust. Finds acceptance and cause for respect in all.
Having empathy and compassion enables one to handle difficult people well. By understanding that your point of view doesn’t have to be someone else’s point of view and vice versa we can accept others without resistance and without undermining our own values.

10. Interpersonal relations. Self-actualizing people maintain deep interpersonal relations with others. They are selective, however, and their circle of friends may be small, usually consisting of other self-actualizing persons, but the capacity is there. They attract others to them as admirers or disciples.
Those in this category seek to serve rather than be exaulted. They have no ego and are willing to learn as much as teach.

11. The democratic character structure. The self-actualizing person does not discriminate on the basis of class, education, race, or color. He is humble in his recognition of what he knows in comparison with what could be known, and he is ready and willing to learn from anyone. He respects everyone as potential contributors to his knowledge, merely because they are human beings.
Free from motivation by ego and status, this person accepts people for themselves rather than their position or lineage. When there are no limitations then there is freedom to grow from all of the interactions and opportunities of life.

12. Means and ends. Self-actualizing persons are highly ethical. They clearly distinguish between means and ends and subordinate means to ends. Acts with integrity, does no wrong, upholds own values.
The ethics of a SA are based on inner values rather than convention although they may appear the same they are motivated internally

13. Philosophical, unhostile sense of humor. Their sense of humor is the spontaneous, thoughtful type, intrinsic to the situation. Their humor does not involve hostility, superiority, or sarcasm.

14. Creativeness. Creative, each in his own way, unlocking own potential. The creativity involved here is not special-talent creativeness. It is a creativeness potentially inherent in everyone but usually suffocated by acculturation. It is a fresh, naive, direct way of looking at things.

15. Resistance to enculturation.
Not being motivated by external influences such as culture, can free you from limitations requiring you to conform to boundaries set within your family, your work environment or your community. Not everyone needs to have a deck !

16. Imperfections
Acceptance of ones own imperfections in a positive way can motivate personal growth. When we can perceive that ‘it is what it is’ then life becomes less resistant. By accepting the imperfections of others without seeing them as imperfect can bring tolerance and patience.
Values – By accessing acceptance of self, one can resonate with ones own values in a way that makes it easy to stand by them without them becoming a dogma which may cause one to resist others who do not share them.
Resolution of dichotomies - Polar opposites merge into a third, higher phenomenon as though the two have united; therefore, opposite forces are no longer felt as conflict. To the SA person, work becomes play and desires are in excellent accord with reason.

By having a broader perspective and absolute trust in owns own inner guide, the resolution of opposites into a positive compromise eliminates conflict. This happens initially at a local level but can envelope the wider population as fewer and fewer people perceive others as a threat.

Metamorphosis enables the breakdown of conditioning patterns for the current future generations, thus broadening the basis for free thinking across the globe.

Fertility                                                                                back to top
Our ability to think develops in the womb at the same time that our physical body is developing, so, by the time we are born we have a thought process which guides life in our physical body. In the same way that there are reflex points for the physical organs of the body there are also reflex points associated with the thought process. By addressing these reflex points we can loosen the conditioning of past generations and be free to think from our own inner guide. The very best time to address these blockages is while still in the womb during pregnancy. This helps a baby to develop without conditioning, resulting in a healthy pregnancy and a birth that is neither too early nor late as the newborn is neither pushing forward into life nor retreating from it. The delivery is calm and timely and the baby settles quickly. For those who have experienced difficulty in conceiving or maintaining a healthy pregnancy Metamorphosis can help to clear the blockages which are inhibiting the creation of a new life.

Parenting                                                                           back to top
If our perception of our role as a parent is in some way limited then we are likely to face more challenges during this period of our life. The role of a parent is to nurture your child from complete dependence at birth to complete independence at adulthood. This is a long but temporary role and should be viewed as such so that you don’t find yourself inappropriately ‘parenting’ a 30 year old when you are in your sixties.

There are a number of pitfalls to look out for along the way. If you can maintain your balance and remember the bigger picture then the ups and downs won’t be so bumpy.

When someone is self motivated they are more likely to choose a path which is right in every dimension for them, right physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Terrible Twos                                                                    back to top
Each and every one of us will react differently to stress and our children are no exception. How we react to our children when they are stressed can have a dramatic effect on how they develop. A temper tantrum in the supermarket can be diffused or escalated depending on how the parent responds. Children need boundaries appropriate to their stage of development which is not necessarily simply defined by their age. Some 3 years olds respond well to rewards whereas others treat a reward as their ‘god given right’ and escalate their demands!

Two key skills a parent can adopt are;

Enjoy your children each and every day because all too soon they will become the adult and parent you are today.        

Bullying                                                                                back to top
Everyone is subject to patterns of underlying stress. Not just environmental stress such as traffic congestion or money worries but a kind of internal stress which causes us to behave in a way we wouldn’t ordinarily choose.
Children who experience this stress may feel like they are standing on a tightrope. They can’t look up or look down they just cling on and feel very wobbly. Depending on the pattern of stress one child will lash out and another will retreat. The child who chooses the lashing out response will easily identify a child who will retreat and direct their angst at them. The compulsion to lash out or retreat is part of the child’s underlying pattern and not easily changed by coaxing, punishing or insisting they face their aggressor.
There are a wide variety of superficial remedies for bullying from time outs to exclusion and these remedies are often very necessary for the protection of others.
They do not, however address the underlying stress pattern and therefore don’t make any fundamental change for the child, so the child learns to modify their behaviour which means they are now operating from an external motive, i.e. one they don’t choose for themselves. In the long term this leads to the internalisation of their stress and subsequent dis-ease and disharmony.
Addressing the underlying stress pattern rather than the symptom, can help a child to comfortably choose a more balanced behaviour rather than have it imposed. This equally applies to the bully or the bullied.
Bullies are everywhere, at school, in the supermarket queue, at the bank and in the workplace. Internal balance moves the child from the wobbly tightrope to a platform of stability opening up the possibility of achieving much more than could be expected from the unsteady zone.
Giving your child the soft option of ‘allowing’ them to choose their behaviour from a place of inner balance will set them up to be a fully integrated adult.

Teenagers                                                                          back to top
If you thought the ‘terrible twos’ were bad wait ‘til you have a moody, hormonal teenager (or two) under your roof! You might have been able to physically remove your toddler from a conflict environment but chances are your teenager is taller than you and better able to debate an argument. So what do you do to you get a teenager to do what you want – in all honesty you can’t .
If the role of a parent is to nurture a child from complete dependence at birth to complete independence at adulthood then by the teenage years you should be almost there. Clearly there is a lot of letting go to be done over the intervening years and if you have managed to develop a healthy respect for your child as an individual then you won’t feel the need to control them at this stage of their development because you trust them.
In the same way that you created soft boundaries for your wobbly toddler as he was learning to physically stand on his own two feet, your teenager needs emotionally soft boundaries which don’t hurt him when he bumps into them but equally makes him feel safe in his new world .
Trust is the key component in handling teenagers, they are, as they see themselves, wannabe adults. In most cases they ‘wannabe’ doing what adults do and don’t see they’re lack of maturity as a limiting factor. Despite the raging hormones a teenager can accept that they still have things to learn and that there are limits to which they should adhere. This acceptance, if it is to come without resistance, will come from a place of inner knowing rather than having to be told. A parent’s role is to nurture this inner knowing from an early age. What you have then is a young adult who knows his own mind, is not driven by fear, favour or peer pressure and so chooses an appropriate lifestyle rather than having one imposed.
The benefits for parents is a hassle free(ish) transition without the need to control and as the parenting role comes to an end the development of a healthy and balanced relationship with your adult offspring.

Autism                                                                                 back to top
In the case of a person with autism, their pattern of thought is one of retreat. They pull back from engaging in many aspects of life and favour repetition and a limited routine. By releasing this pattern they can move into an expanded and more balanced life. Their communication skills improve, change and touch are no longer resisted and calmly and at a pace that only they control they can engage in life while still maintaining all their positive characteristics.

ADHD/ ADD                                                                           back to top
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and Attention deficit disorder are conditions which reaches way beyond the sufferer out into his environment and relationships.
Those suffering from ADHD or ADD will present a range of symptoms which include inattention, impulsivity and hyperactivity and those closely involved with sufferers require a range of skills to cope with this.

Most conventional approaches focus on the symptoms and can provide a variety of medication, therapy and education designed to ‘manage’ the problem.
Metamorphosis takes an entirely holistic approach to the person by understanding that our thoughts create our physical reality. Instead of managing the problem, Metamorphosis creates a safe space in which every individual can let go of their preconception conditioning, creating a more balanced harmonious life. The result is to be a person who brings conscious awareness to all of their actions and interactions. It creates an inner peace which facilitates the letting go of impulsive behaviour. People become actively engaged in life instead of constantly fighting against it. Integration into mainstream life is seamless rather than managed.
If you want your child to be the best they possibly can be, Metamorphosis can help them to release the blocks which inhibit them and allow them to achieve their full potential. Because is not a counselling process, it goes beyond logical reasoning and communicates with an individuals inner intelligence and so is accessible to everyone.

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